… having a child would not throw a monkey wrench in that.
There is an enormous loss of freedom with kids.
I don’t think that missing out on 10-14 years of travel is such a big deal. You can catch up later. Also, so far, I don’t find that having kids has been all that expensive. On our salaries, high chairs and toys, and food and diapers were trivial expenses. The big expenses have been day care( 2k per month per kid in this HCOL area), private schools (optional; around here 25k/yr for k-8, 45k/yr for high school. prices rise each year) , summer camp ( 3-5k per kid per summer ), and the 529 plans, but fortunately we have been able to afford those as well without messing up our financial plans.
As to travel the biggest restriction is that during school years you can travel only during their holidays. Those will be expensive. But still worth a sacrifice. I have taken my daughter since age 5 to Peru, Ecuador, Canada many times, India, Greece, Turkey, Hungary, Austria, Germany, Czech rep, Spain, Russia, Finland, Australia ( and yes Tasmania too), Tanzania, Kenya and now planning a S. America or Cambodia trip. These have been a great education for her that no books or Disney trips will replace. There is no right or wrong answer. But my life ( and my wife’s too) has changed dramatically with the birth of our daughter. And we are so grateful for that.
I didn’t read the whole thing either, but does your husband want a kid? I have two teenage sons and will definitely miss them in a few years when they are off in college. I couldn’t imagine not having kids, but my wife and I wanted kids without hesitation. Fortunately, we waited until we were married a few years before we had our first.
The dink life is nice.
But for you, it’s now or never.
you sound freaking awesome ???? ! I’m a 33 YO female MD, currently no kids, unmarried. I do plan to have a family at some point, but, like you, I love to travel (I’m into scuba and mountaineering), and hope to continue to do so later in life once I do have a family. Do you think your folks or in laws can watch the kids while you guys go travel sometimes? That was what I was hoping… By the way, how was Sri Lanka? I am thinking about going there this Spring, Vs. Uganda/Rwanda. Side note: I recently ran into a family of six (parents and 4 kids between the ages of 5 and 10 or so) travelling from Alaska to the tip of South America for a year. They were skiing on Mt. Hood in Portland. Why not?
I kind of like peace and quiet. As an OB/GYN it is better for you and your husband to be all in on the decision. Plenty of professional women seem happy without kids if that is your choice. In fact I see lots of intelligent women who want a child so bad that they get involved with totally inappropriate men. Only you and your husband can make this decision. If you want them get on it soon. Tick. Tock.
I didn’t read the whole thing either, but does your husband want a kid? I have two teenage sons and will definitely miss them in a few years when they are off in college. I couldn’t imagine not having kids, but my wife and I wanted kids without hesitation. Fortunately, we waited until we were married a few years before we had our first.
I am definitely going to do shorter posts from now on. Anyway, husband is ambivalent, we both want them and don’t want them for the same reasons. Of course, he left this decision completely in my court.. meaning if I don’t want to do it, he’s fine with that, and if I want to do it, he’s fine with that too. It kind of sucks, I wish someone else could make this decision for me because there are pluses and minuses to both sides.
The dink life is nice.
But for you, it’s now or never.
I know!! The time pressure is the worst. If I could just have another 15 years to decide I don’t even think I would be stressing this! Men are so lucky. They have forever.
Why on earth?! Thats crazy, you didnt spring for the pool? I think you’re overall doing great, and its impossible to know what you woulda coulda shoulda. Its incredibly different with or without kids, you may want it in a few years, problem is the clock ofc. I’ve thought how easy and fun it would be without the kiddos, but then again you have those amazing moments all the time where you’re stupid lovestrucked over banal life and how you feel theyre the most adorable person in the world (they do become teenagers though). Both are great, just very different and no one here can decide or should sway that for you. You have to trust yourself and your relationship, goals, etc…and then take a leap.
Did the thought of kids come before or after the boat purchase?
Get a dog?
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