Quick brief background: Husband and I are both in time-intensive fellowships (year 2 out of 3) and have a toddler at home that keep our hands full. We have no support family-wise near us and although we have daycare during the week, both of us have to take turns watching the little one on the weekend when the other person is working. On the rare occasion that one of us gets some time off and actually does something for themselves (e.g. go golfing with colleagues and drinks afterwards), it is hard for the other one to not feel resentful for not getting their own "personal" time as well.
Both of us are tired all the time and although we love our child immensely and want to have more in the future, I can't seem to see past the fact that we have no time for ourselves, especially if you have a list of chores to accomplish during the weekend. It's starting to wear on our marriage and besides just hiring a babysitter every weekend, I'm curious how other people have dealt with it... And I don't know if our lifestyles will be any better after fellowship is over because both our careers involve being on call frequently. Need some encouragement or advice.
Both of us are tired all the time and although we love our child immensely and want to have more in the future, I can't seem to see past the fact that we have no time for ourselves, especially if you have a list of chores to accomplish during the weekend. It's starting to wear on our marriage and besides just hiring a babysitter every weekend, I'm curious how other people have dealt with it... And I don't know if our lifestyles will be any better after fellowship is over because both our careers involve being on call frequently. Need some encouragement or advice.
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