A job dilemma for me!

[Fullhouse11]

Speaking only on the side of your family(not the golden handcuffs) - My husband and I recently ‘uprooted’ our two teenage boys and 5th grade daughter for a new practice opportunity. It has been hard and heartbreaking because it was the only home they knew. I question the decision on a weekly basis. Our kids are making friends and we are 4 months into the move. We are making new traditions in our new community. It’s really not the end of the world, they didn’t break. If you are making your decision solely on your daughter, remember how resilient kids are. We have some friends who moved for a job after their oldest graduated high school was in her first year of college and their two youngest made the move. The oldest is the one having the harder time. When she comes home, their new home does not hold the same feelings that it does for the rest of the family. There are pros and cons to all decisions. I think the move has put a lot of stress on my kids, for sure, but they have a pretty sweet life overall.

[q-school]

Stop being ridiculous. I'm glad you already reached the conclusion yourself.

Spend the next two years figuring out what you want to accomplish during your well earned retirement. You may not want to work at all in a few years. Plus are they going to want 54 yo vagabond if he wants to work part time and has all these vacation demands?

If you insist on pursuing this, ask if they will take you on S a Locums for a couple weeks here and there. Learning new Emr is hard. Not knowing who you are talking to when speaking with consultant is hard. Being required to sit in meetings for ir, vascular, onco, gi, m and m, pulmonary when you are part time is no fun. Answering questions bout credentialing no fun. There's a lot of good will built up in one place over a twenty year career. Enjoy it. If you want to move to Colorado or California, just move. Doesn't need to be job related. Don't you pay someone to help with these decisions?

U know I love u though.

[pistolpete]

I vote “no.” You have too many things coming to fruition in your current location. Contact the dream job and say that you’ll sign a contract to move there in 2020 if they’ll take you. They can hire someone in the interim before you come along. And if they say no, at least you tried.

[DMFA]

I think one of the few absolute truths in this world is not to mess with teenage girls.

My oldest is 2, so obv this isn't coming from a perspective of extensive experience, but...I think you'll regret uprooting her more than you'll regret a job opportunity.

Hey, didn't they make a movie about this exact thing? Except that did have a fairly happy ending...

[Hatton]

Yes you can completely retire with that guaranteed health insurance.

[PhysicianOnFIRE]

Vagabond MD wrote:

My heart says “go”, and my brain says “no”.

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There are times when you should follow your heart. I don't think this is one of them. I think your brain is making the right choice.

In two or three years, an even better situation may arise (or remain available) in the same group or a different group entirely. Or you may realize that you could just as easily move there (or anywhere) without any interest in working.

[The White Coat Investor]

I'd contact them and let them know you're interested, but not for a while. What can it hurt? Maybe they muddle along for a couple of years and then take you.

[Kamban]

Too many things are going well right now. A slightly less than hectic job for you. A son off to college. A daughter going well in high school. A wife who earns well and is due to get medical benefits for both of you until 65. And you have saved well and achieved FI.

You must be a bit crazy to leave all that for a job that might not be all that great when you actually join. So control your urges until you daughter goes to college. Time flies.  

[djohnflatfeecfp]

Vagabond MD wrote:

Of course, this is also assuming that the job is in Mrs. Vagabond’s dream retirement location, also.

Actually, it is. Alas, we must live in the present and not in the future. Had I not tidied up the job situation at home it would be more of an option, but I do like the direction of things now. Staying put is the right move.

I am going to unsubscribe to the job listing emails until I am ready to make a move. If it opens up in late 2019, I will be ready for it.

 

 

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Glad you have been able to make a decision and definitely sounds like the right one.  Just out of curiosity, would you have been able to fly back and forth on a regular basis?

[Dr. Mom]

Vagabond MD wrote:

If it opens up in late 2019, I will be ready for it.

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Even if it isn't listed, contact them.  Sometimes a job can open up for the right person.

[VagabondMD]

Of course, this is also assuming that the job is in Mrs. Vagabond’s dream retirement location, also.

Actually, it is. Alas, we must live in the present and not in the future. Had I not tidied up the job situation at home it would be more of an option, but I do like the direction of things now. Staying put is the right move.

I am going to unsubscribe to the job listing emails until I am ready to make a move. If it opens up in late 2019, I will be ready for it.

 

 

[Hatton]

Your wife's golden handcuffs truly are worth their weight in gold.  I would not give up lifetime retiree health insurance .  Deals like that are rare.  My brother and his wife got that from IBM.  I would not want to disrupt your daughter either.  Maybe you could work one week and return home the next.  I guess you need a second person to job share with.  You are close to the finish line now.

[jfoxcpacfp]

This sounds like a very unusual position if it hasn't been filled for 6 months. I certainly wouldn't vote to uproot the family; it would be too impactful for both your wife with the golden handcuffs and your daughter at a very sensitive point in her life. You know your family's personal dynamics best, though. Is this a situation you would all be willing to put up with you commuting back-and-forth weekly for 3 years? Could you rearrange the schedule to be one full week on and one full week off? Just wondering if there is any flexibility. Being able to video-conference has changed the landscape for being able to stay connected when you're not physically there.

On the other hand, you're looking forward to cutting back in January. Will this plunge you back into the 60-hours a week rat-race just when you've begun anticipating a slowdown? Or does the shift to p.t. result from the current situation (as I seem to remember from the prior thread about this topic)?

Three years can go by pretty fast (as I can testify to at age 60   ). If you would all be miserable during that time, it's just not worth it. If you can work out a fair compromise and make it work, I see a possibility. Of course, this is also assuming that the job is in Mrs. Vagabond's dream retirement location, also.

[Dr. Mom]

Sorry V, but your daughter comes first.  No way would I uproot her in high school.  I am also concerned about the commute and working alone part of the job for you based on comments you've made in the past.  If you really like it, just approach them in a few years when your life timing is right with your family.  I can't imagine they wouldn't want you then as well.  Stop looking on the other side of the fence for now and enjoy the green grass where you are!  Best wishes.

[Donnie]

It looks like a pretty easy “no” to me, but I would make the usual pros/cons table.  It appears the only reason you are thinking about this job is because you think something similar won’t be available in the future.  The good thing about HCOLA’s is that they typically offer a lot of job opportunities.  Uprooting your family for this “ideal” job doesn’t seem worth it unless they are also on board.  There’s a good chance you find that this job is not as great as you imagine anyway.  I’m sure you can find another great job when the family is in a better position to move.