Affidavit of support foreign spouse

[Guest]

I had questions about prenuptial agreement and affidavit of support. I talked to a lawyer about my foreign spouse to be...
Form I-864

apparently affidavit of support trumps prenuptial agreement

Is there anyway to marry someone who is on a student visa as a us citizen and not sign the affidavit
What if they are joint sponsors?
If the marriage goes south I am on the hook for 10 years for in the event there are an incurred debts on the spouse and paying for her at poverty level
She is a PhD student...

[CordMcNally]

Those would be great questions for the lawyer you spoke with.

[justlearning]

I never seen government go after someone yet for I-864 but check with your lawyer. . . You are only on the hook until the person became US citizen which is around 5 years period if you do it right!!!. or you can find someone else to sponsor her/him. though i don't know what kind of message that would send your potential spouse. That you are not trusting enough to sponsor her/him?

[MPMD]

Those would be great questions for the lawyer you spoke with.

Peds ? Is that you?

[Guest]

I will ask good point but in life one can never be to sure my life is already so stressful with my job and work and that is provided that person gets their green card within a year and citizenship within 5 years. Oftentimes it is not that easy especially if on the other end the other person me who is a us citizen is a high end professional. I told her I might not sign it but would marry her and she remains on the student visa. At the end of the day no one should be marrying for us citizenship.
i would be on the hook for 125% poverty level testing and any means based testing she told me she was not going to get health insurance until she starts PhD school and she mentioned her previous program did not grant her a PhD and so she had to make do with a masters degree.
She is on a student visa perhaps her family could sponsor her for a green card. I just don't feel comfortable with the risk. I will ask the lawyer what I can do if I don't sign it. I only met her 4 months ago. I am glad the prenup lawyer brought it up.

[CordMcNally]

I, for one, am highly intrigued by your personal and professional life.

[Lithium]

I will ask good point but in life one can never be to sure my life is already so stressful with my job and work and that is provided that person gets their green card within a year and citizenship within 5 years. Oftentimes it is not that easy especially if on the other end the other person me who is a us citizen is a high end professional. I told her I might not sign it but would marry her and she remains on the student visa. At the end of the day no one should be marrying for us citizenship.
i would be on the hook for 125% poverty level testing and any means based testing she told me she was not going to get health insurance until she starts PhD school and she mentioned her previous program did not grant her a PhD and so she had to make do with a masters degree.
She is on a student visa perhaps her family could sponsor her for a green card. I just don't feel comfortable with the risk. I will ask the lawyer what I can do if I don't sign it. I only met her 4 months ago. I am glad the prenup lawyer brought it up.

read the two bolded sentences again.

[Guest]

Yes I have to admit this last year has been pretty hectic. Its been pretty crazy as a single doctor in my mid 40's. It has led to some very interesting posts but in the end the information has been helpful. I think we touched on topics that some readers might find useful but were afraid to ask
the reality is I am not going to sign that form and she has agreed to marry me anyway at least for now. Her parents just got their green card so they can also sponsor her.

[Anne]

What’s the rush? If you aren’t sure about getting married the right answer is to wait until you’re sure.

[Hatton]

Are you sure you want to marry someone you have only known 4 months? I knew my ex husband for 3 years before marriage and was still surprised by stuff he hid. 40s is not that old.

[Guest]

I agree I am not going to sign the form but I will marry her. I told her that she will decide and let me know. I agree with you 100%

[Lithium]

I hope you’re better at negotiating this transaction than you are at taking good advice.

How many times have you met your future wife face to face?

[Tim]

What’s the rush? If you aren’t sure about getting married the right answer is to wait until you’re sure.

Absolutely nothing wrong with getting married. If it is the right thing for you and your potential spouse, it will happen anyway. It's not romantic, I proposed to my spouse of decades while on vacation with another partner. That partner was actually living in my house. Talk about "stupid". Find the right match and you will know it. Absolutely no reason to get hitched in a hurry.

[CordMcNally]

It's not romantic, I proposed to my spouse of decades while on vacation with another partner. That partner was actually living in my house.

You were a part of a throuple?

[Tim]

You were a part of a throuple?

Nope, called on New Years Eve and had made up my mind. Took her sister about 15 minutes to get her to take the call. What DO YOU WANT?
When I got home someone's bags were packed. Not mine. No need for an eviction order. I didn't have to say a word about vacating the house. Easy Peazy.
The problem was, I knew my spouse gives a long long leash. So long you can hang yourself without even knowing your dead. Leash had run out. Still kicking 37 years.
I married up.